read an interesting book lately and i wanna share a chapter which i personally like alot...

EMOTIONAL LAG TIME

Long before the heart is reay to let go, the mind wants to move on. This speedy thinking is fine for the mind, but it is not the way the hearts heals. The heart moves much more slowly. This difference can be compared to light and sound. For the sake of analogy, if the mind moves at the speed of light, then, in comparison, the heart moves at the speed sound. There is a significant difference.

In the physical world, we can objectively observethe difference between the speeds of light and sound. We don't question it because we can physically measure these different speeds. It is much harder to observe the mental and emotional world. Although we don't commonly see or measure the mind and heart, we must recongnize the difference to heal a broken heart successfully.

When we lose love, it takes a lot longer for our heart to adjust than for the mind. As soon as we think we ready to move on, another wave of painful feelings comes up. This ebb and flow of feelings is not only natural, but neccessary process. The heart does not let go in one step, but rather gradually and in waves, just as the tides our unresolved feelings come and go. At low tide, not only does the pain go away, but we discover one more degree of the power and knowledge within ourselves to find love once again. Thrn the high tide comes and we are flooded with unresolved feelings of anger, sadness, fear and sorrow. Through this process of grieving again and again , we eventually let go and find love.

At low tide, we may feel that everything is fine. In our minds, we have adjusted to the loss, and we are ready to move on. when high tide comes in we are suddenly facing our unresolved feelings again. One day you are optimistic and ready to move on, but then the next day you feel angry, sad, or afraid. While this may seem a little crazy, it is not. Just as light and sound travel at a different speeds, the mind and heart change, adjust, adapt, and self-sorrect at different speeds. In the healing process, it is normal and even healthy for feelings to lag behind the mind.

* i didn't write this piece myself... but i type it out OKIE